If Not Now, When?


Our best selves don’t happen by accident.

Most of us don’t just fall into our dream jobs or instantly have the lives we want. In fact, most people who succeed have been quietly working at it for a very long time. They’ve been making steady progress.

The good news is that success is replicable. By following these three steps, we can each create the lives we want for ourselves:

  • Picture it. Decide what you want to accomplish, and then act as if you’re already there.

    What does it feel like and look like? Imagine a movie of your ideal life playing on a screen and then step into it. Let yourself experience the joy of this new life.

  • Plan it. When you’re in this joyous state, list out the steps you’ll need to take in order to reach your goal. Begin with the end in mind, as the late leadership expert Stephen Covey said.
  • Take intentional action. Take your list of steps and break them into bite-sized tasks, then put each of the tasks onto your calendar.
    The idea here is to keep the tasks small. That way, you’re taking baby steps toward your goal while still managing your day-to-day responsibilities. It’s this steadiness that leads to success.

Whatever you want to accomplish, there is no perfect time to begin. The sooner you begin, the sooner you’ll reach your goals.



The Warm Hearth


A warm hearth

is a shelter,

a place that draws us in,

invites us to sit a while.


Its humble strength

allows us to come together,

to see each other

in a softer light.


It is here, at the hearth,

that we come home

to each other

and to ourselves.


As the amber flames

serenade us,

our bodies and souls sway, soften,

prepare to receive.


And when we allow it,

when we answer the call,

the flames stoke the fire

of our own inner divinity.


We become our own hearths,

drawing others in, inviting them to sit a while.

We come home to ourselves and to each other.

We cast a softer light.




Six Ways to Go Old School This Summer

IMG_6539For most of the year, we’re in a rush.

We’re filling up our calendars. We’re accomplishing. We’re wearing ourselves out.

Instant gratification takes too long.

—Carrie Fisher

But in the summer, we seem to do one important thing right: we slow down. It’s the time of year when we reconnect with ourselves and others. We take vacations. Breathe. Enjoy our lives.

And then, in the blink of an eye, it’s over, and we spend the rest of the year looking forward to our next summer vacation.

This summer, let’s take an opportunity to slow down a few days a week—and then take some of these habits into the rest of the year.

Six Ways To Go Old School

When it comes to relishing my life, my mantra is “go old school.”

Here are six old-school ways to help bring back the magic of childhood and reconnect with ourselves, our friends, and our family. Have old-school practices that bring back your childhood and make you feel centered? Please add them as comments.

  1. Have family dinner at least once a week. Light a candle to make the meal feel special. Eat slowly. Sit around the table after the meal and visit.
  2. Walk barefoot. On the grass. In the sand. At home.
  3. Ride your bike instead of driving. Walk to dinner. Stop by a neighbor’s house on the way home and visit.
  4. Go on a picnic. I like to bring a picnic basket for the sheer romance of it, but you can just bring a blanket and a sandwich if you want. And when summer is over, move the picnic indoors. I turn off all the lights and picnic in front of my fireplace.
  5. Put down your electronic devices and play cards.
  6. Build a campfire. Sit around and tell stories, sing, or play games.