To Change Your Life, Change Your Perspective

I was walking along the beach the other day doing what so many of us do—thinking about the things in my life that I want to fix—when I noticed a crooked Christmas tree someone had planted in the sand. The tree was leaning far to the left and had an uneven shape. crooked tree

I wasn’t in the best of moods, so the crooked tree irritated me. I looked away and kept walking. But when I glanced back a few moments later, the tree appeared perfectly straight.

“Got it,” I said out loud, acknowledging the lesson in perspective that I was meant to receive. The tree hadn’t changed, but my vantage point had. Similarly, I needed to shift my perspective on my life.

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Immediately, I began thinking about my many blessings. And as I did, I began to feel happier, kinder, more of the world and less caught up in myself. I began to see possibilities rather than roadblocks, beauty instead of annoyances—all because I simply chose to be grateful.

Anyone can learn to do this, and it only takes a few minutes. Do it daily and it’ll knock your socks off.

How to Practice Gratitude

  1. At the beginning of each day, list five things for which you’re grateful. This positive start can carry through the day, helping you view challenges as opportunities.
  2. During the day, if there’s a bump in the road, take yourself back to your list. Notice how this feels in your body and how being grateful affects your words and actions.
  3. Just before bedtime, give thanks again for your blessings. You can do this in your head, but I think it’s more powerful to write them down. This end-of-day practice programs your subconscious with positive, empowering images and helps you create more positivity in your life.

Nine: A Tribute to the Children I Would Have Raised

 

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One. Would have been my parents’ first grandchild.

Two. Gabrielle. A girl.

 

Three. I didn’t tell anyone

about him until he was gone.

I thought it would be less painful for everyone.

It wasn’t.

 

Four. She would have been born in May,

my favorite month.

Five. He’d be turning 22 now,

done with college.

 

Six. Stephen.

Seven and eight. The twins—

two sacs,

no heartbeats.

 

Nine.

The number of plants in my garden.

There are always

nine.

 

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Gifts

It is only when an oyster is invaded

that its inner surface

produces a natural protectant—

strong, lustrous nacre.

 

As nacre builds, layer by layer,

the oyster transforms into

something bigger than itself,

something that, only now

can reveal

its gift to the world.

 

Read You Are Not Broken

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Maturation

 

Without its time in

the cocoon,

the butterfly

would have stayed as it was—

a caterpillar.

 

It would not have

discarded

what no longer served it

and made use of the rest

to create a magical being.

 

Without its time in

the cocoon,

it would not have

transformed itself.

It would not have taken flight.

 

Read about how to manage your energy.

Rituals for Healing

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It was,

like an old friend at a high school reunion,

unrecognizable at first.

 

Those I love

had assured me

that it existed.

 

And so,

day

after

day,

I trusted the rituals I knew

would save me.

 

I walked

the treads of my shoes smooth.

Wrote in my journal,

crying myself dry.

Surrounded the tub with candles

And soaked my deadened soul.

 

I trusted the process. Believed,

even when

I had no faith.

 

And then, joy made its way to me,

held my hand,

and asked me to dance.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Creating Your Future

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Photo by michael podger on Unsplash

 

What if—like a spider—

creating and re-creating

were necessary

for your survival?

 

Would you doubt

your ability to weave

an intricate, magnificent web?

 

Would you be too busy

or say

you don’t have the skills?

 

Or would you realize that,

like the spider,

everything you need to create your web

comes from within you?

 

Time is of the essence.

So the spider decides what kind of web it needs,

produces silk threads and

gets to work.

 

It is only

when the web is complete

that the spider sits

and waits.

 

What kind of geometric wonder

would you create for yourself

if you could create anything?

If your survival depended on it?

 

Read about how to start creating your future.

 

 

No Mud, No Lotus

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Photo by Jay Castor on Unsplash

The lotus doesn’t

ask permission

to shoot its stem out of the mud.

It is simply time.

 

Time to loosen its grip,

to pass through the water

and emerge from the surface.

Time to yield to its purpose.

 

And so, it softens.

Unfurls.

Stretches

until it reaches its full expression.

 

Even then, as a beaming

chalice of light

and communion,

the lotus stays rooted in mud.

 

Because the mud,

the darkness,

is where its life began

and the wellspring of its luminosity.