The Warm Hearth

A warm hearth is a shelter, a place that draws us in, invites us to sit a while.   Its humble strength allows us to come together, to see each other in a softer light.   It is here, at the hearth, that we come home to each other and to ourselves.   As theContinue reading “The Warm Hearth”

Solving Conflict in Relationships

Have you ever inadvertently hurt a loved one with your words? Me, too. Sometimes we act out of frustration, or we’re tired, or irritated by a loved one’s behavior. And when we address the situation, we only make things worse. Nobody’s going to get it right all the time, but there’s a way to vastlyContinue reading “Solving Conflict in Relationships”

What Do You Want to Accomplish in Your Lifetime?

I’m a planning junkie. In the last 30 years, I’ve tried dozens of systems, have read stacks of books about planning, have taken seminars and have used many of the planners on the market. I start thinking about planners in June. By July, I’m researching them. My fellow junkies and I spend hours discussing plannerContinue reading “What Do You Want to Accomplish in Your Lifetime?”

Nine: A Tribute to the Children I Would Have Raised

    One. Would have been my parents’ first grandchild. Two. Gabrielle. A girl.   Three. I didn’t tell anyone about him until he was gone. I thought it would be less painful for everyone. It wasn’t.   Four. She would have been born in May, my favorite month. Five. He’d be turning 22 now, doneContinue reading “Nine: A Tribute to the Children I Would Have Raised”

You Are Not Broken

When I hear people say that we’re all broken, I think about the Island of Misfit Toys from Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer. The misfit toys—all unwanted because of their imperfections—live on an island, away from the rest of the toys. They wait on the island  until their ruler finds a child who will loveContinue reading “You Are Not Broken”

How We Spread the Very Things We Hate

The words we use have a ripple effect. They can either spread peace, kindness and compassion, or they can give fuel to the very hatred we’re trying to stop. In short, we get more of what we focus on. So we can choose to put our words and energy toward the change we want orContinue reading “How We Spread the Very Things We Hate”

Make the Most of Your Energy

Like many people, I sometimes end the day feeling that I didn’t make good use of my time that day—that I got some necessary little stuff done, but that I didn’t chip away at the initiative that’s most important to me. Or that I did make progress on the big thing, but the quality ofContinue reading “Make the Most of Your Energy”

How to Start Moving Toward Someday

Imagine that you’ve been given one day each week — a full 24 hours — to do what you please. What would you do with it? Would you learn the skills you need in order to move into a satisfying career? Take up a hobby you’ve said you’d get around to “someday?” Spend more time with friends and family? […]

Gifts

It is only when an oyster is invaded that its inner surface produces a natural protectant— strong, lustrous nacre.   As nacre builds, layer by layer, the oyster transforms into something bigger than itself, something that, only now can reveal its gift to the world.   Read You Are Not Broken        Continue reading “Gifts”

New Habits, New Life

Daily habits. They may be hard to form, but once they become routine, we hardly think about them. A case in point: brushing your teeth. Remember how hard it was to learn to put the toothpaste on the brush without getting paste all over the counter, to grip the toothbrush properly, to move the brushContinue reading “New Habits, New Life”